Robbed this concept from my Dalai Lama book…
If everyone is constantly nice to you, if your life is comfortable all the time, then you are likely to be a horrible, angry and just a general bellend.
Ever noticed how people born with incurable diseases, and disabilities tend to be really positive and all round great people; whilst those of us who have had comfortable lives, constantly moan about not having this, that and the other?
If nobody challenges you, if nothing tests you, if you never suffer, then you never have to adapt and grow. Obviously it’s far from ideal having a long term problem or health issue, but short and even medium term ‘problems’, issues and confrontations can make us grow into better people – if we adapt and learn and react positively.
Growing up in the 80s and 90s, I think parents did a good job of protecting us (with beautiful intentions), sheltering us, and not really letting us experience any trauma or stress or anything like that at all. Then you become an adult, and get dropped off into ‘real life’, and now every man and his dog suffers from stress and anxiety. We need people to annoy us and challenge us, if everyone is nice to us we would end up like Kanye West. Which wouldn’t be ideal. So try not to get too upset when someone in work grinds your proverbial gears.
I’m a big believer that ‘we are all one’, one energy, and how we turn out depends on our genetics and our environment – nobody chooses to be a bad person. Don’t hate your enemies, see them as a challenge. If this fails, there’s always mushrooms.