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“It’s what you can let go of; that determines how high you can fly”<\/h2>\n

Let go of whatever does not serve you<\/h2>\n

Perhaps as a result of watching a couple of ‘TED Talks’ on self confidence, I had a suggestion on my youtube homepage, for a video entitled ‘How To Stop Caring What People Think Of You’.<\/p>\n

I’ve put the videos at the bottom of this post.<\/p>\n

It’s a very interesting topic. \u00a0I’ve had friends that are completely crippled and stifled by what people think of them; and they’ll judge me and stifle me with their own insecurities.<\/p>\n

Everyone needs to be a ‘people pleaser’ and act the same as everyone else, stay in the mainstream for every facet of themselves and their characteristics; too scared to do anything, to scared to fail and too scared to be labelled different or weird.<\/p>\n

In additional, they’ll start to judge others by their own insecurities – they’ll cringe, call you weird, laugh at you, give you a negative image. \u00a0Thus perpetuating the vicious circle of judging others and protecting one’s own self image.<\/p>\n

Some important points to consider:<\/p>\n

F*ck what others think; have your own agenda and stick to that<\/strong>.
\nFor example; mine might be:
\n– Making the right decisions morally
\n– Being honest and having courage to politely pointing out wrong-doing
\n– Not acting aggressively
\n– Being patient
\n– Being tolerant and polite<\/p>\n

Not saying I’m particularly good at any of the above things, but that’s my agenda, and that’s what I’ll judge myself on. I’ll listen to others peoples feedback based on my own agenda. \u00a0If they call me weird or stupid, that doesn’t come into it.<\/p>\n

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People will re-align their own value system to suit their own agenda. \u00a0For example a business man may judge others (and himself) and wealth and ‘career’; whereas a bodybuilder may judge others on the size of their biceps.
\nLet them get on with their own biased values, and just concentrate on your own<\/p>\n


\nExpression Not Impression
\n<\/strong>When communicating, focus on expressing yourself. \u00a0People focus on the people around them, and think about, what those people are thinking.<\/p>\n

Don’t do that! \u00a0Focus on expressing yourself, think about what you’re doing, not what they’re thinking.<\/p>\n

Positive Self Talk<\/strong>
\nIn order to forget what others think, it’s important to ‘love yourself’. \u00a0This starts with positive self talk, and having your own agenda of values.
\nRecommend watching this video on this subject:<\/p>\n