{"id":3031,"date":"2015-06-24T22:45:01","date_gmt":"2015-06-24T22:45:01","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blackbeltwhitehat.com\/?p=3031"},"modified":"2015-06-24T22:45:01","modified_gmt":"2015-06-24T22:45:01","slug":"love-is-the-answer","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/blackbeltwhitehat.com\/en\/2015\/06\/24\/love-is-the-answer\/","title":{"rendered":"Love is the Answer"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>\u2026and here&#8217;s what I mean by that&#8230;<\/p>\n<p><strong>1.\u00a0Love not Hate for others<\/strong><br \/>\nEver noticed that people who complain about others all the time, are really angry and bitter, and often not the most upstanding people themselves?<br \/>\nIf you can stop judging people, I promise you will feel a lot less angry, and a lot more happy.<br \/>\nRemember there will always be good and bad people in any given demographic, and if they&#8217;re not running about with guns and killing people then you are lucky. Are the people in work, the people you don&#8217;t like for whatever reason, really that bad?<br \/>\nAlso, I&#8217;m a big believer then people don&#8217;t really choose to be the way they are, they are predominantly a result of their upbringing, experiences and genetics. Remember what you criticise is often a direct reflection of your own insecurities<\/p>\n<p><strong>2. Money doesn&#8217;t make you happy, Unconditional Love does<br \/>\n<\/strong><a href=\"http:\/\/blackbeltwhitehat.com\/2015\/04\/02\/does-money-make-you-happy\/\" target=\"_blank\">Rich people aren&#8217;t happy people<\/a>. \u00a0Feeling like you don&#8217;t have to live up to anything, prove anything to yourself or others, because you are unconditionally loved, is in my opinion, the secret to happiness.<br \/>\nThe Fight Club cliche about buying stuff to impress people you don&#8217;t even like, is also important. \u00a0You won&#8217;t have to bother with that stuff, if you don&#8217;t feel the need to impress others, because their love and respect is conditional.<\/p>\n<p><span class=\"embed-youtube\" style=\"text-align:center; display: block;\"><iframe loading=\"lazy\" class=\"youtube-player\" width=\"640\" height=\"360\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/E5f5KEhwMjs?version=3&#038;rel=1&#038;showsearch=0&#038;showinfo=1&#038;iv_load_policy=1&#038;fs=1&#038;hl=en-GB&#038;autohide=2&#038;wmode=transparent\" allowfullscreen=\"true\" style=\"border:0;\" sandbox=\"allow-scripts allow-same-origin allow-popups allow-presentation allow-popups-to-escape-sandbox\"><\/iframe><\/span><\/p>\n<p>Freud&#8217;s nephew Bernays, is said to have created consumerism by manipulating the public.<\/p>\n<p><span class=\"embed-youtube\" style=\"text-align:center; display: block;\"><iframe loading=\"lazy\" class=\"youtube-player\" width=\"640\" height=\"360\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/qiKMmrG1ZKU?version=3&#038;rel=1&#038;showsearch=0&#038;showinfo=1&#038;iv_load_policy=1&#038;fs=1&#038;hl=en-GB&#038;autohide=2&#038;wmode=transparent\" allowfullscreen=\"true\" style=\"border:0;\" sandbox=\"allow-scripts allow-same-origin allow-popups allow-presentation allow-popups-to-escape-sandbox\"><\/iframe><\/span><\/p>\n<p><strong>3. Take pleasure in other people&#8217;s successes<br \/>\n<\/strong>If you can develop the emotional intelligence to put aside jealously, and instead take pleasure in other people&#8217;s successes, you will enjoy life much more. \u00a0Again this is related to loving yourself unconditionally, and not feeling the need to impress others.<br \/>\nYou can either be bitter and angry and jealous, or develop yourself as a person so you are happy when others succeed. Tough choice.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Love<\/strong><br \/>\n&#8211; Happiness<br \/>\n&#8211; Fun<br \/>\n&#8211; Good health<br \/>\n&#8211; Good karma<br \/>\n&#8211; Forgiveness<br \/>\n&#8211; Unity<\/p>\n<p><strong>Hate<\/strong><br \/>\n&#8211; Bitterness<br \/>\n&#8211; Anger<br \/>\n&#8211; Ill health<br \/>\n&#8211; Grudges<br \/>\n&#8211; Jealously<br \/>\n&#8211; Insecurity<br \/>\n&#8211; Competitiveness (to an unhealthy extent)<br \/>\n&#8211; Conflict<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>\u2026and here&#8217;s what I mean by that&#8230; 1.\u00a0Love not Hate for others Ever noticed that people who complain about others all the time, are really angry and bitter, and often not the most upstanding people themselves? If you can stop judging people, I promise you will feel a lot less angry, and a lot more [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":41980142,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_coblocks_attr":"","_coblocks_dimensions":"","_coblocks_responsive_height":"","_coblocks_accordion_ie_support":"","_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_wpcom_ai_launchpad_first_post":false,"_jetpack_feature_clip_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true,"jetpack_social_post_already_shared":false,"jetpack_social_options":{"image_generator_settings":{"template":"highway","default_image_id":0,"font":"","enabled":false},"version":2},"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false},"categories":[2007],"tags":[1693255],"class_list":["post-3031","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-musings","tag-love-is-the-answer"],"yoast_head":"<!-- This site is optimized with the Yoast SEO plugin v28.4 - https:\/\/yoast.com\/product\/yoast-seo-wordpress\/ -->\n<title>Love is the Answer - Fitness &amp; MMA Blog - BlackBeltWhiteHat.com<\/title>\n<meta name=\"robots\" content=\"index, follow, max-snippet:-1, max-image-preview:large, max-video-preview:-1\" \/>\n<link rel=\"canonical\" href=\"https:\/\/blackbeltwhitehat.com\/en\/2015\/06\/24\/love-is-the-answer\/\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:locale\" content=\"en_GB\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:type\" content=\"article\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:title\" content=\"Love is the Answer - Fitness &amp; MMA Blog - BlackBeltWhiteHat.com\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:description\" content=\"\u2026and here&#8217;s what I mean by that&#8230; 1.\u00a0Love not Hate for others Ever noticed that people who complain about others all the time, are really angry and bitter, and often not the most upstanding people themselves? 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