…and here’s what I mean by that…
1. Love not Hate for others
Ever noticed that people who complain about others all the time, are really angry and bitter, and often not the most upstanding people themselves?
If you can stop judging people, I promise you will feel a lot less angry, and a lot more happy.
Remember there will always be good and bad people in any given demographic, and if they’re not running about with guns and killing people then you are lucky. Are the people in work, the people you don’t like for whatever reason, really that bad?
Also, I’m a big believer then people don’t really choose to be the way they are, they are predominantly a result of their upbringing, experiences and genetics. Remember what you criticise is often a direct reflection of your own insecurities
2. Money doesn’t make you happy, Unconditional Love does
Rich people aren’t happy people. Feeling like you don’t have to live up to anything, prove anything to yourself or others, because you are unconditionally loved, is in my opinion, the secret to happiness.
The Fight Club cliche about buying stuff to impress people you don’t even like, is also important. You won’t have to bother with that stuff, if you don’t feel the need to impress others, because their love and respect is conditional.
Freud’s nephew Bernays, is said to have created consumerism by manipulating the public.
3. Take pleasure in other people’s successes
If you can develop the emotional intelligence to put aside jealously, and instead take pleasure in other people’s successes, you will enjoy life much more. Again this is related to loving yourself unconditionally, and not feeling the need to impress others.
You can either be bitter and angry and jealous, or develop yourself as a person so you are happy when others succeed. Tough choice.
– Good health
– Good karma
– Ill health
– Competitiveness (to an unhealthy extent)